Ive been paying child support going on 6 years now. For the first 7 months of my divorce I paid my ex directly with money orders or by money gram because the child support hadnt started taking it from my check yet. I worked out of town and I wanted to make sure I had evidence of payment and my ex wife even provided receipts of my payment stating it was for child support on my receipts. Once the child support office started taking the money directly they sent a letter saying I owed back support from the time my ex and I departed. My ex wife took the receipts to the office located in Sallisaw Oklahoma. Later I received another letter showing that they had received receipt of cash payments and put it towards my back due. Even tho the ex was receiving the money she was having financial troubles at the time so on a couple of occasions I paid her rent in return she gave me a receipt showing the money was child support. I thought all was fine and dandy because I hadn't heard anything from the CS office until I filed my the following year I got a letter from the IRS showing a tax offset from the CS office of Sallisaw and the amount. I called the CS office asking why they took the money because I wasn't behind on support and requested a print out of payment history. After receiving the print out I compared it to my receipts from the ex and my check stubs and was happy because I over paid by them by $3200 or so I thought. The following day I went to the Sallisaw office taking my receipts of payments that I paid directly to my ex and my check stubs that showed what the CS office was taking and the paper I had received about the offset and spoke with my case worker about it and she said she needed to speak with someone about it and walked out. Later a different lady came in with her rude little attitude and asked why I thought there was a problem with the print out. I gladly handed over all my receipts and told her some of payments didn't reflect her print out. She then told me that my ex wife must not have taken them in to be applied. I assumed I had enough proof for them to fix it since she had the receipts in front of her she then told me my ex has to go in and tell them she wants it to be applied. I was already getting irratated by her demeanor and lack of professionalism but I was being civil. So while I was there I called my ex wife and asked why she missed some receipts and told her the ones that was missing she explained that she had brought those in a few days prior. I told the lady what was said and explained to her that it wasn't just the 3 receipts from my ex that wasn't applied there was a few that came directly out of my check that wasn't applied. The lady then told me it didn't matter what my receipts said the only thing that mattered was what her computer said. Now not only was they stealing over $1500 of my tax return they wasn't gonna give me credit for the $3200 that I had proof of paying. Here I'm thinking I'm screwed because that was just my first year of paying CS and I already got shafted for nearly $5000. I then started requesting print outs from them to keep up with it better and low and behold it happened again. There print out never matches the payments made I'm assuming so they can hold money to collect the interest. Matter of fact it has happened every year but 1 since I've been paying CS. I've never had a good experience with them bout time I get a case worker that seems that he/she is actually neutral with the case like they are suppose to be they never last long. The first time I asked for a remod on my CS was when I had quit a dang good job because I found out my kids didn't even live with my ex they lived with her parents while she lived with her boyfriend and it had been that way for 6 months. I told my ex I was quitting my traveling job and was gonna file for full custody. She told me she couldn't afford a lawyer and told me I was just being selfish. I quit that job the next day and drove home from south Louisiana to get my kids but while I was on my way in she called and said she wanted to do 50/50 custody and would drop the CS I happyily agreed because I was gonna see my kids more. That worked out for about 3 months until her boyfriend kicked her out and she had no money. I was under the assumption she had been working but I was wrong again, she hadnt worked any the first 3 years of our divorce and I was ordered to pay her to carry insurance on our kids even tho I had been carrying insurance on them and I had to pay extra for her to put my kids in daycare that they never went to. It only gets worse while I have my piddly $9 an hr job which was fine at the time because I wasn't paying out the rear for CS she cried wolf and in comes Sloane to the rescue. My bring home pay after they started taking CS out again was $63 every 2 weeks. I applied for a remod to have my CS lowered. Going in to court with high hopes knowing I was gonna be able to tell the judge about what had been happening. Low and behold the judge wasn't even there to rule in the child support it was my evil nemisis Sloane. Here I am with all my proof of payments that was never applied and a letter from a witness that for 6 months of the year I was paying CS and my kids wasn't even living in the same home as their mother and for the 3 months after that they lived with me. I knew I was screwed when I saw who was deciding my fate. I fought that battle anyways because it needed to happen. I explained to her about all the extra money that I paid in towards my kids daycare and for my ex to carry insurance she a waste because she never worked. I asked if I was gonna get that money back along with the other money I feel was stolen and she said no. I then pleaded my case about my kids not even living with their mother for 6 months while I paid her CS her reply was it didn't matter where my kids lived because I was ordered to pay my ex CS not my kids. I proceeded to tell her that for the prior 3 months my kids had been in my care and I never received or even asked for a dime and she delivered the knock out punch by tell me I had to pay back pay for that 3 months. I tried ending my relationship with the crooked, sexist,thieving, racist, biguts aka the Oklahoma Child Support Enforcement office by telling her I was just gonna open another bank account with my ex being and her being the only one with access to the money cause all I wanted was a copy of the bank statements showing where the money goes. According to Sloane it wasn't any of my business where the money is spent or what it is spent on and the only thing that matter is that my ex got the money. It really is sad that my that our tax dollars pay those very same people to screw us out of more money. Im still getting the raw end of the deal I'm afraid its a losing battle but I still have hopes of getting the $20k+ that has been pretty much stolen from me in the past years. In February 2015 I tried another attempt to plead my case and notified the CS office that I was unemployed at the time and still am. In November of 2015 they sent a letter threatening jail time because I had made a payment since they stole my tax return for the 4th. I requested to have my CS lowered because it kinda hard to get blood out of a turnip. They did lower my CS tho a whole $75. I didn't see my kids much this past year because their mother refused to let me see them because she wasn't getting her monthly allowance any more. It's sad that she and her boyfriend have a nice house and have a business together and I'm a unemployed disabled veteran but the CS office doesn't even care as long as they get their money and the mother gets hers. The CS office and DHS is suppose to be a neutral party but clearly they are sexist and crooked. They worry about the momma the momma worries about the money and most of time the only one even worrying about the kids is the dad. I can't speak for everyone and hopefully not everyone goes through this.
The government might as well pay us mothers to do child supports job