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I was ripped off by this scam site

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BDSM Com - I was ripped off by this scam site

I joined this site in May 2024 to learn more about the BDSM community. I assumed that, since the site was named after the philosophy, they might be respectful of the BDSM community and would maintain the highest standards to protect their users. In fact, BDSM.COM has no relationship whatsoever with the BDSM community. Take for comparison the promiscuous Adult Friend Finder, where even a dog can get laid if they have a few bucks stuck in their paw. They appeal to macho types with hard appendages and all raring to go. They also don't get mixed up with ethical topics like whether promiscuous sex is dangerous, let alone sex with *** You feel filthy being there. So, let's face it, if you feel disappointed, you weren't really paying attention. BDSM.COM has cynically inferred that they represent a community that they do not understand. They are just Adult Friend Finder Part II, BDSM Edition. Females place profiles on this site that say things like this:

Hey, all you DOM Masters on this site! I don't know anything about this BDSM thing. I need you to teach me!! I'm ready to be debased and used!!!

Translation:

Hey, cowboy idiots who think you know about BDSM !!! Let me make you feel important so you can all bang me for cash!!!

Talk about charming!

When I arrived on the site, my simple DOM-in-training profile got a lot of attention. I was surprised. How would I handle 50 eager subs (submissives), all begging for my leadership? Then things got strange. After texting a few times, I realized that we weren't getting anywhere. We mostly batted the ball back and forth with no outcome. Were they toying with me?

Then I thought, these are real people, right? When I checked my 50 subs, I was blown away to discover that only two of them were verified.

Getting your identity verified on BDSM.COM is fairly easy. It takes about five minutes. They use a well-known service to temporarily and securely store a photo of your ID card. They then ask you to take a photo of your face next to that same ID card. They match it using software. They then destroy all of the records of those materials. Hence, no chance whatsoever of theft.

I gave my new subs instructions which I had a right to do as their Dom or Master to get verified immediately. They sheepishly agreed. But none of them actually did it.

Finally, I instructed them to provide a public (disposable) email address so I could set up a Google Chat. That's a safe way to talk with someone without having their phone number, for instance. It also supports video. I insisted that this be a *video* chat, which I repeated as if they were *** (what are the odds of that, right?). Finally, three of the 50 girls agreed. I was feeling a bit embarrassed since they had called my bluff.

In all three cases, the girls started the Google Chat. They sent me sexy—and unsolicited — photos of themselves. I was not dissuaded. I said, OK, I'm calling you on video chat. The problem was that none of them answered.

I haven't paid my phone bill

It doesn't work, I swear

I'm trying to install Skype instead

Then things got quite a lot stranger. One of these three whatever-they-ares stupidly left their real name on the Google Chat window. The name was a series of short phrases. I looked them up on Google. The first two were the name of a rap singer. I asked the sub about that.

It's just a nick {oops} name

The third name was Adom. I asked about that. It means 'wondrous one'

Not quite. Yes, it had a fun, magical meaning. *But* then I saw the actual Google description:

masculine name used in Ghana

I was talking to a man all along! They were all men. And since their goal was to talk about sex with men, and exchange inappropriate pictures, these were male homosexuals. That's why none of them could face me. They were fakes.

Just before this, I foolishly gave my phone number to two subs. Within an hour, I received a call from Folsom Prison. Some male prisoner was trying to get me to accept a collect call!!!

As I objected more and more, my loyal group of subs evaporated like water in the desert. I wrote to the last bunch and told them that they could verify themselves using any objective means whatsoever. None of them complied.

I have good taste in females. I know I responded to the 50 prettiest girls on the site. Guilty as charged. But only two were verified. The rest refused to confirm their identity using any means whatsoever. That means that BDSM.COM is made up of:

A large group of average-looking profiles that are probably accurate. Nobody ever contacts them.

A small group of incredibly attractive females that don't exist. Everybody wants them. People actually bid money to get attention from them. But these are not females at all. They're male homosexuals looking for a quick thrill.

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Loss:
$200
Cons:
  • Attractive ladies are male homosexuals

Preferred solution: Full refund

User's recommendation: Do not wste your time

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| map-marker Las Vegas, Nevada

Allowed a minor to sign up and make an account

BDSM Com - Allowed a minor to sign up and make an account
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My son purchased he's only 12 I want his money back he doesn't know what he's doing and I don't why your site allows him to purchase this app then somehow you've obtained my tax information to take my identity or what please give my refund so I don't have to take this court I'm very busy working trying to make a living my kid made a mistake

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Jamaine Mtd
map-marker Tuscaloosa, Alabama

Can't login

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Cant login.customer service says create new account but my existing content will be lost! I am no longer going to use this platform

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User's recommendation: Don’t use this platform

Richard S Zgu

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| map-marker Tapin, South Kalimantan

Can’t login and can’t get help— says my email is invalid yet I get daily emails from them

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Cant login-/ when I try to reset my password it says email in not valid but I get daily messages at that email

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Pros:
  • Good contacts
Cons:
  • Impossible to reach administration

Preferred solution: Access to site so I can delete my profi

User's recommendation: Good contacts but poor communication from administrators

alan h Psi

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I met a mistress on Facebook who claimed she...

I met a mistress on Facebook who claimed she worked for bdsm and we talked for a long time and then she wanted me to pay her a tribute which I did and have not heard from her since and if she does work for you then why would you employ people that just want to scam people

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Dagmar Qmb

Was her name mistressnica

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My account has been taken over and I have been locked out

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hackers have taken over my account, they have changed my password and my email address. I have received a email from bdsm.com asking if I had changed my email address, the answer is NO, I haven't changed my email address and I have notified you of this incident.

I would suggest you close my account down before these people *** into other members accounts. I am no longer able to log in as the details of my log in have been changed.

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Preferred solution: my account shut down and person responsible reported

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